Raising kids can feel like a rollercoaster ride of joyous moments coupled with a feeling that you may not make it through the day. Sometimes it feels like you’re grasping onto your sanity while trying to get a million things done at the same time. Can you relate? Here are ten tips to help you stay sane amidst the chaos that comes with being a working mom.
Understand the stages of development
While every child progresses at their own rate, understanding the stages of development can help you to know what to expect. Are your child’s tantrums driving you nuts? It’s normal for two-year-olds to throw a fit when they don’t get their own way. During this developmental stage, your child is trying hard to become independent. Knowing what your child is going through can help to reduce your frustration when you encounter behavior that’s tough to handle.
Getting creative with or without your kids is a great way to relax. Creative projects help you to express your emotions, which is a better strategy than bottling everything up. Journaling before you go to sleep is an excellent way to work through problems that are worrying you before you get a good night’s rest.
Pick your battles
Save your energy by picking your battles with your kids wisely. If it’s not a situation that puts your child in danger, try letting them learn through experience. Not only will you avoid a draining argument, you’ll also give your child a chance to learn a valuable lesson. Try to praise your children for good behavior more than you punish them. You can help your children by modeling good behaviors and teaching them the healthy habits that you want them to have.
Be present with your children even in the tough times. When your kids are fighting with each other or throwing a tantrum, it’s tempting to disengage from the situation. While we all need a time out sometimes, it’s important to stay emotionally present when things get difficult. Facing the problem can help to resolve it faster and more effectively than if you opt out.
While having a fairly tidy living space can help you to feel sane, obsessing over keeping your house spotless is a recipe for disaster. Kids come with mess and as soon as you embrace that, you’ll be a lot happier. That being said, having designated containers for toys and teaching your kids to tidy up for themselves can help to keep complete chaos at bay.
Spend time outdoors
Staying cooped up in the house is sure to leave you and your kids feeling frustrated. Take a walk to the park to get some fresh air, to boost your mood and to get a change of scenery. Sometimes a change of scenery is all that it takes to feel better and to get a different perspective on any problems that are bothering you.
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Set aside time for family bonding
Whether it’s eating dinner together or planning a fun weekend activity, there are plenty of ways to bond as a family. While tantrums are normal, you can reduce bad behavior by making your children feel loved and cared for. When your children feel like they can talk to you about their problems, it helps you to stay involved in their life as they grow up. While you’ll always worry about your kids, it’s easier to cope with the anxiety when you know that your children feel comfortable asking you for guidance.
Cultivate a healthy relationship with your partner
With a million and one things to do each day, it’s easy to neglect your relationship with your partner. Having a good relationship with a partner that you can rely on goes a long way towards keeping you sane. You can cultivate a good relationship by communicating properly, sharing your feelings and learning when to compromise.
When you leave things to the last minute, it’s sure to end in disaster. Set some time aside on Sunday evening to plan for the week and take note of any important appointments. That way if you’re thrown a curve ball, you’ll be ready to cope with it.
Treasure the precious moments
While you may feel like you’re losing the plot on some days, in amongst the chaos are memories that you’ll treasure forever. Take photos and remember the good times so that when you hit a rough patch it’s easier to keep everything in perspective.