Let’s face it, becoming a parent is terrifying. There is no life-saving manual that we are given to prepare us. We are expected to just know what to do, and deal with situations all ‘parent like’ when they happen. One of the greatest things we come to realize as first-time parents are that our parents also had no clue what they were doing. We figure this out by sounding exactly like them when interacting with our children.
“Do as I say, not as I do!”
How many times did you hear that as a kid? Now, how many times have you said it to your children?
We cannot blame our parents for telling us the things they did when we were growing up. They did what they thought was best in the moment, and we are trying our damn hardest to do the same.
It is now really easy to come up with a list of “Things my mother told me that aren’t true”. Because we are now the mother, telling our kids the exact same thing.
- Marry for love, not for money.
Now I know this may seem highly controversial. In no way am I saying don’t love the person you marry, but nowadays most households need two incomes to survive. Today’s economy is just not what it used to be. Some moms are lucky enough to stay at home and look after the household, but most of us have to work. Make sure that the person you are looking to spend your life with will play an active role in keeping the family afloat, and also be present both physically and emotionally.
- Always tell the truth.
No, the truth isn’t always the best option. Sometimes a little white lie may save a lot of heartbreak, and a big tantrum. Telling your kid that the station canceled cartoons for the night may be your only way to get them into bed.
- Life isn’t fair
Yes, life is difficult. This doesn’t mean that you can have all necessary preparations in place for when time gets tough. Being organized, responsible and self-reliant can go a long way in helping you prepare for when life “isn’t fair”. We are also very lucky to live in a society that no longer accepts injustices. If something is morally or ethically wrong, we don’t just carry on with our lives. We stand up and speak out about it, making life fairer for the next generations.
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- Good things come to those who wait.
Sorry mom, but they don’t. Good things come to those who get out of bed every morning and work hard for what they want. Sitting back and waiting for handouts will get you nowhere in life.
- Motherhood is the most rewarding job in the world.
Motherhood is undeniably one of the most amazing and fulfilling experiences a woman can have. But it doesn’t have to be the most rewarding for everyone. Some women are more driven by a career or sport, and that is completely okay. The days of women being pushed to have children are over. We make our own choices and will decide what will be our most rewarding experience.
- Kill them with kindness
This is almost a built-in saying for all moms. We try and teach our kids to be the bigger person and walk away, but sometimes walking away is not right. We need to teach our kids to stand up for themselves. If we don’t, we are raising a generation of individuals who will be too scared to stand their ground and stick up for what they believe is right.
- I don’t have a favorite
Touchy subject. However, there will always be the one child that a mom connects to more. It is completely unintentional, but it does happen. Most moms are good at hiding it though. This doesn’t mean she loves any of her other kids any less, she just enjoys one more than the others.
- Family is everything
Growing up in a stable, loving family can give you the best start in life. But as you grow older, you realize that your needs change, and therefore you need to surround yourself with people who suit your needs and lifestyle better. Not to say you should kick your family to the curb, but sometimes it is okay to have a support system who aren’t blood relatives. They may understand your lifestyle better than your family does.
- “You are my sunshine, my only sunshine”
Being a mother is heart-breaking. It is exciting, joyous, rewarding and incredible, but heart-breaking. You will never experience sadness and guilt like you do when you’re a mom. Your children will break your heart, reduce you to tears, and then hopefully build you up again.
- You won’t always need me
Yes mom, I will. I will need you when I am down, I will need you when I am happy, I will need you when I need to be a mom one day as well. A mother never retires, we seem to need our moms more the older we get. Appreciate every advice and warning from your mom while you still have it.
There you have the top 10 things our moms tell us, almost like looking in a mirror right?